九月に日本に住むの時をしんぱいします。

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Mar 29th 2011 09:26

In September I will most likely be moving to Japan to go to school. I'll in school for at least 4 years and would like to live there permanently.

I've wanted to do this since I was a little girl, but lately I have been having a lot of anxiety about it. It might sound petty or silly, but I'm really worried that I won't be able to make any friends and that nobody will like me. I'm leaving all my friends behind in America, so I'm scared that I'm going to be lonely in Japan.

What's it like making friends in Japan? I hope it's not rude of me to ask, but do you think that people won't like me just because I'm a foreigner? Even if I can speak Japanese?

I dunno...I'll stop whining now I think lol.

メイ

EDIT: I just had a random thought! I heard that a lot of Japanese people make friends or join clubs through forums, is that right? Out of curiosity, if I made friends that way and didn't mention I was a foreigner and then went to meet them...do you think that would upset people?

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Mar 29th 2011 09:25 yoshi

Japanese
English

It is true that some Japanese avoid making friends with foreigners, but not all Japanese do so. Daijoubu desu! Don't worry about it!

yoshi

Mar 29th 2011 13:44 メグ

Yay! I'm glad!

Mar 29th 2011 09:33 sao

Japanese
English

Don't worry about it!
You can find new friends soon.

Where do you live in Japan?

Mar 29th 2011 13:51 メグ

In September I'll be moving to Tokyo (^ ^)

Mar 29th 2011 09:52 singolf

Japanese
English

九月に日本に住むの時をしんぱいします。
九月に日本に住むの時のことをしんぱいしますしています。

1 people think this correction is good.

Hi!

I want know where you'll live in Japan.
If it's not so rural, I think there are many Americans In Japan.
and today there are some SNS like this site, so I think you can communicate easily with your friends.

I didn't have a courage to go to abroad when I was student. I have a little regret. So now I am learning English to go to abroad when I will retire my job.

I'm sorry for my not good English, but I wrote this as possible as I can.

I hope that you'll decide good choice for yourself!

Mar 29th 2011 10:31 drfranktm

Knowing her, I can already tell you that she is not talking about making American friends (although I'm sure she'll make some in Japan sooner or later). She's asking specifically about making JAPANESE friends while living in Japan. She doesn't want to go live in Japan and then spend all of her time hanging out with foreigners. She's going to Japan to hang out with Japanese people and experience Japanese culture. She's very serious about this. Personally, I don't think she needs to worry, but if Japanese people have advice to give her to help her make Japanese friends quickly and easily, she will be most grateful and I'll be grateful too, both because she's a good friend of mine and because it will probably be useful advice for me too. :-)

Mar 29th 2011 11:16 singolf

Thanks Mr.drfranktm.

Maybe I have a little misunderstanding her dairy.
but I want to say that there are many Americans In Japan(not rural city like Tokyo), and there are some SNS site. so if she'll be lonely in Japan
she can get advice from their and talk with their various things. so I think she will not become lonely.

As for making friend with Japanese, there are many people who want to make friends with foreigners like me! So no problem!

Mar 29th 2011 11:47 drfranktm

Ah! ごめんなさい！ I had misunderstood you, I think. You are right that she can get advice from other foreigners on how they made new Japanese friends in Japan. I hadn't really thought of that. :-)

Mar 29th 2011 12:10 singolf

No problem Mr.drfranktm.

I should have written correctly. but I maybe couldn't write comment correctly because I am not good at English yet. I'll try to keep studying English hard.

Please correct my dairy if you have a chance.

Mar 29th 2011 13:03 drfranktm

I am not a native speaker of English either, so I make mistakes too. Don't worry about it. It will take me a long time before my Japanese becomes as good as your English is now. :P

Mar 29th 2011 13:57 メグ

singolfさん; I'll be living in Tokyo (＾▽＾*) drfranktm was correct about me meaning Japanese friends, but your suggestion about getting advice from other foreigners is a really good idea! I hope that you get to study abroad soon too~

Thank you for your encouragement, I'll do my best!

Mar 29th 2011 14:01 メグ

drfranktm; <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement as always!

Mar 29th 2011 23:05 drfranktm

You're welcome. :-)

Mar 29th 2011 09:57 Kohji

Japanese
English , Russian

How about making friend with other international students at first?
I'm doing study abroad in the US right now and in the beginning of the time I got Asian friends then, got to know American friends.
To tell the truth, Japanese are very shy and kinda afraid of foreigners because they don't have a confidence of their English.
If there is foreign language department in your university, there must be Japanese students who are interested in your culture!
Take it easy and I believe you can do it^^

Mar 29th 2011 14:02 メグ

That's a good idea (^ ^) I'll definitely try that when I get there!

Mar 29th 2011 09:56 bldg2f

Japanese
English , Japanese

九月に日本に住むの時をしんぱいします。
九月に日本に住むの時のことをしんぱい（心配）していますします。

I don't think so.
Judging from journals you wrote, I fond you have open to mind much enough to be liked by everybody.
Additionally, you have much interest and minds for improvement in yourself, which I believe essential sense of human regardless of where people come from.

Don't ruin what you have:)

Mar 29th 2011 13:57 メグ

(^ ^) Thank you for being so sweet, I'll do my best!

Mar 29th 2011 10:17

Here's my translation of your original English. Sorry in advance my doing too much.

９月になったらたぶん日本に引っ越して学校に行くことになると思います。４年は学校に通ってできたらその後もずっと住みたいです。学校に小さい頃からずっとしたかったことだけど、最近凄く不安になってきました。つまんないとかバカバカしいと思われるかもしれないけど、誰とも友達になれなかったり、誰にも好かれなかったらどうしよう、って本当に心配してるの。アメリカの友達とはお別れだから日本で一人になるのが怖いんです。日本で友達をつくるってどんな感じですか？失礼かもしれないけど、日本語が話せても外人じゃ好かれないのかしら？わからない・・・うん、もう、うじうじするのやめますね（笑）。

メイ

I don't know, either. But one thing I can surely say is you have already at least one Japanese friend in Japan who really like you even if you don't speak Japanese at all.

Mar 29th 2011 13:59 メグ

As always, I really appreciate you translating my journals for me! I do feel bad that you have to go through the trouble though (´･ω･｀)

And thank you for your friendship, it means a lot to me!

Mar 29th 2011 14:15

No, no. Piece of cake. I have nothing on my plate yet.

Mar 29th 2011 14:59 キスケ

Japanese
English , Spanish

Quite a lot of Japanese people are interested in western culture and people.
Don't be afraid to talk to Japanese. We won't bite you, haha.
You will get tons of Japanese friends soon, I guess.

Mar 29th 2011 15:40 mocha

Japanese
English , Spanish

I live in Tokyo,I'm looking forward to see you!!^0^

Mar 30th 2011 13:35 momoko

Japanese
English , Portuguese(Brazil)

だいじょうぶ。お友達はすぐにできますよ。
I'm sure you'll soon make friends with your classmates and in club activities.
And many of your Lang-8 friends live in Tokyo!

Mar 30th 2011 17:45 Eomer

Japanese
English , Korean

In September I will most likely be moving to Japan to go to school.
9月になったら、日本に学校に通うため引っ越すつもりです。

I'll in school for at least 4 years and would like to live there permanently.
少なくとも4年間は学校で、その後はずっとすみたいと思っています。

I've wanted to do this since I was a little girl, but lately I have been having a lot of anxiety about it.
小さい頃からの夢でしたが、最近ではそのことで、いろいろな不安もあります。

It might sound petty or silly, but I'm really worried that I won't be able to make any friends and that nobody will like me.
こういうことを言うとばかばかしく聞こえるかもしれませんが、本当に心配なのは友達をひとりも作れないのではないかということです。

I'm leaving all my friends behind in America, so I'm scared that I'm going to be lonely in Japan.
アメリカに自分の友達を残していくので、日本でひとりぼっちになるのが怖いのです。

What's it like making friends in Japan?
日本で友達を作るのってどんな感じですか？

I hope it's not rude of me to ask, but do you think that people won't like me just because I'm a foreigner?
失礼じゃない質問だといいんですが、外国人だということで好かれないことはありますか？

Even if I can speak Japanese?
私が日本語を話したとしても？

I dunno...
よくわかんないや

I'll stop whining now I think lol.
愚痴はこれぐらいにしておきますｗ

EDIT: I just had a random thought!
追記：ちょっとおもったんですが

I heard that a lot of Japanese people make friends or join clubs through forums, is that right?
日本の人は（mixi とかの）掲示板とかを通じて友達を作るって聞いたんだけどほんと？

Out of curiosity, if I made friends that way and didn't mention I was a foreigner and then went to meet them...
もしよかったら教えてほしいんだけど、そういう形で友達になったとして私が外人だということを黙って会いに行ったら

do you think that would upset people?
気に障ったり（さわったり）すると思いますか？

What's it like making friends in Japan?
何かのサークルに入って、同じ趣味の人と友達になるのが一番だと思います。
飲み会とかコンパはあると思いますが友達は作りにくいと思いますのでお勧めしません。

do you think that people won't like me just because I'm a foreigner?
そういう人はそれなりにいると思いますが、一部だと思いますよ。

people make friends or join clubs through forums, is that right?
数年前にできた友達はmixiで知り合った友人が多いです。
私の場合は、趣味が囲碁なのでオンラインで知り合って
実際にあうことを繰り返して友達になりました。
学校にいる場合はサークルに入るのがいいとおもいます。

do you think that would upset people?
偏見を持たない人となるべく付き合えば、そういう心配は要らないと思います。

これからどうなるか、友達は出来るのか、うまくやっていけるのか、
いろいろ不安だと思いますが、コントロールできないことの不安はほっといて、
５年後１０年後の幸せな自分のイメージを持ったほうがいいと思う☆

いい旅になるといいですね♪

Apr 03rd 2011 08:32 Yuki