Lady Kong
Apr 16th 2010 00:30
Notes
Today a picture reminded me of one of my neighbors in my hometown, Lady Kong. I don’t know her exact name. How ridiculous, we have been neighbors for several decades, but I still don’t know her name yet.
She has been suffering many mishaps in her life. When she was only about 15 years old, she was forced to marry a man as a second wife, who was 20 years older than her. His first wife treated her badly. Lady Kong couldn’t get pregnancy, and people don’t know why. Some people said later that the first wife had put something bad into her daily food, and that caused it, but nobody cared about that at that moment. Because she couldn’t have a child, her husband also treated her coldly.
After The People’s Republic of China established, the governments asked those who have more than one wives to divorce with their concubines. Lady Kong had to leave his husband with nothing. Later the local government arranged the first wife’s two sons to be her sons. But most of time her adopted sons would rather stay with their own mother, and were reluctant to be with her. She has not married since then.
During the Culture Revolution of China, she had suffered a lot, because she had stored up many traditional books. She had never told me what she suffered at that time, but I thought she must feel ashame at those experiences.
After 1978’s, China launched reform and open policy, the situation have changed. She had made Toufu to earn money to support her two adopted sons.
Later her sons got married respectively. But her daughter-in-laws treat her also badly. She had to take care of her grandchildren and did some farm work.
Now her grandchildren grow up, and her sons don’t need her anymore. She lives alone now. This New Year, I came back to my parents’ home and saw her digging her land alone, and her eyes were milky. I greeted her and she smiled shortly, and it seemed that she didn’t want to talk more. She almost is more than 75 years now.
I remember that once she always liked to say “People are born to suffer pains”.
I hope one day she will not suffer those anymore.
She has been suffering many mishaps in her life. When she was only about 15 years old, she was forced to marry a man as a second wife, who was 20 years older than her. His first wife treated her badly. Lady Kong couldn’t get pregnancy, and people don’t know why. Some people said later that the first wife had put something bad into her daily food, and that caused it, but nobody cared about that at that moment. Because she couldn’t have a child, her husband also treated her coldly.
After The People’s Republic of China established, the governments asked those who have more than one wives to divorce with their concubines. Lady Kong had to leave his husband with nothing. Later the local government arranged the first wife’s two sons to be her sons. But most of time her adopted sons would rather stay with their own mother, and were reluctant to be with her. She has not married since then.
During the Culture Revolution of China, she had suffered a lot, because she had stored up many traditional books. She had never told me what she suffered at that time, but I thought she must feel ashame at those experiences.
After 1978’s, China launched reform and open policy, the situation have changed. She had made Toufu to earn money to support her two adopted sons.
Later her sons got married respectively. But her daughter-in-laws treat her also badly. She had to take care of her grandchildren and did some farm work.
Now her grandchildren grow up, and her sons don’t need her anymore. She lives alone now. This New Year, I came back to my parents’ home and saw her digging her land alone, and her eyes were milky. I greeted her and she smiled shortly, and it seemed that she didn’t want to talk more. She almost is more than 75 years now.
I remember that once she always liked to say “People are born to suffer pains”.
I hope one day she will not suffer those anymore.
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In her life, she has suffered many hardships.
But her daughter-in-laws treat her badly also.
How ridiculous, we have been neighbors for several decades, but I still don’t know her name yet.
Lady Kong couldn’t get pregnant, and people didn't know why.
Some people said later that the first wife had put something bad into her daily food, and that that had caused it, but nobody noticed at that time
After The People’s Republic of China established, the governments asked those who had more than one wife to divorce with their concubines.
Lady Kong had to leave her husband with nothing.
But most of time her adopted sons would rather stay with their own mother, and were reluctant to be with her.
She has not married since then.
During the Great Proletarian Cultural Revolution of China, she had suffered a lot, because she had stored up many traditional books.
She had never told me what she suffered at that time, but I think she must feel ashamed about what occurred.
After 1978’s, China launched a policy of reform, and the situation has changed.
She had made Tofu to earn money to support her two adopted sons.
Later her sons got married respectively.
But her daughters-in-lawsalso treat her badly.
Now that her grandchildren have grown up, her sons don’t need her anymore.
I greeted her and she smiled shortly, and it seemed that she didn’t want to talk more.
She is almost 75 now.
I remember that once she always liked to say “People are born to suffer pains”.
I hope one day she will not suffer those anymore.
this story is tragic. poor woman, who seems to have been the victim of history, circumstance and hideous relatives. i hope she finds peace too.
Today a picture reminded me of one of my neighbors in my hometown named Lady Kong. (otherwise it sounds like your hometown was called Lady Kong xD)
She has suffered been suffering many mishaps in her life.
When she was only about 15 years old, she was forced to marry a man as a second wife who was 20 years older than her.
After The People’s Republic of China was established, the government asked those who had more than one wife to divorce with their concubines.
But most of time her adopted sons would rather stay with their own mother and were reluctant to be with her. (I think "rather" is good here)
During the Cultural Revolution of China, she had suffered a lot, because she had stored up many traditional books. ("Cultural Revolution of China" is generally understood)
She had never told me what she suffered from at that time, but I thought she must feel have felt ashamed at of those experiences.
But her daughters-in-law also treated her also badly. (for the record, I really hate this grammar rule. "Daughters-in-law" just sounds so unnatural to me)