When I started giving a student a lesson at 4 pm, for example, his/her mother always came to the room around 6 pm where my student and I studied. [ No need for that, it is already assumed/known.]

Do you guess why? Why is that?

His/her mother would take bring a piece of cake and a cup of tea or things like that to me.

Even though she paid enough money for the lesson to me my lessons , she would always serve them every time I gave a lesson.

Her attitude toward me is a pretty common.

As a matter of fact, when you visit a Japanese friend's house even without notice, you will be usually served a cup of tea and some snacks without being asked if you'd like them. [Already stated.]

Due to this custom, Japanese people often take some snacks or sweets with them when they visit someone else's house.

These are our the Japanese habits costumes based on our hospitality.

When I lived in Malaysia, I had an Australian friend who gave private lessons to Japanese people at their houses.

She would be sometimes be annoyed when she was by being served a cup of tea or sweets and so on to her without warning being asked.

She told me that she would find found it difficult to decline the offer under some circumstances.

In China, I would sometimes ask a massager--she often visited Japanese customers' houses to massage them--to come to my house. [Doesn't make sense...]

When I have dinner with my foreign people friends, I often notice that they feel uncomfortable with being when they are served by their Japanese people.

However, some Japanese try to serve food despite you not being asking them to do so.

They will also try to offer to pour bear into your glass.

To be honest, I'm sometimes annoyed by being because they insistently served drinks and snacks at someone's house even though when I decline. them with thanks.

In restaurants, I often feel uncomfortable with being served by my friends etc since I want to enjoy my meal at my own pace.

In my opinion, the hospitality that makes feel others uncomfortable is not real Japanese hospitality, ( reference: http://lang-8.com/33465/journals/567741 ) even though it's seemingly polite.

People who always offer such surface such hospitality do that just to satisfy themselves, although some people believe that the hospitality will make everyone feel happier.

I'm Sorry.

I'll talk about what Japanese hospitality is and how I deal with this hypocrisy in the next entry.

I usually went to their house and gave them a two-hour lesson.

When I started giving a student a lesson at 4 pm, for example, their mother always came to the room around 6 pm where my student and I studied.

Can you guess why?

The mother would bring a piece of cake and a cup of tea or things like that to me.

Her attitude toward me is a pretty common.

These are our customs based on our hospitality.

These offers are intrusive and hypocritical even though people are doing it with good intention.

Do Canyou guess why?

<meta charset="utf-8">he wouldbe sometimes　sometimes　get 　annoyed by being served a cup of teaand so on to her　by someone else　without being asked　first.* １．This makes the sentence clearer. There is no need to put 'and so on' when the entire topic of your entry is about being served tea, snacks etc. The reader is usually able to infer that you are talking about other things included with being served tea. 2. It sounds more natural to say we 'get annoyed' rather than to 'be annoyed' in this case*

When I have dinner with my foreign 　friends　, I often notice that they feel uncomfortable with being served by their Japanese people. *If you are speaking about foreign people in general, you can also say, " When I have dinner with foreign people, ..." When you use the word 'my' with 'people', it kind of sounds like you are a king and you are ruling 'your people'. :D

However, some Japanese　will　try to serve　you　 fooddespite 　not being asked　 to do so.*1. I put 'will' to make it clear that they will attempt to serve you the food. 2. Writing only 'serve food' in this sentence makes it sound like they are going all over the restaurant and serving everyone food, so I added 'you'.

They also try to offer to pour beer into your glass.

Do you guess why? - you could say "Do you know why?" or "can you guess why?" but not "do you guess?"

Even though she paid enough money for the lesson to me, she would serve them every time I gave a lesson.= OK

These are our customs based on our hospitality.

When I lived in China, I would sometimes ask a Chinese masseuse (or massage therapist) --who often visited Japanese customers' houses --to come to my house. For occupations like massage therapy, "client" is more common that customer. Actually I think client is mostly used if you are offering a service, rather than selling goods.

To be honest, I'm sometimes annoyed by being served drinks and snacks insistently at someone's house even though I politely decline.